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Sunday, June 18, 2006

Do-ers

Hope you're all keeping cool enough this summer! And speaking of the heat, if you haven't yet, I highly recommend seeing the movie "An Inconvenient Truth". I'm sure you'll find it fascinating and enlightening.

Well if you're like me, you are probably quite a do-er. We're always on the go, trying, doing, achieving. This is a wonderful quality that is highly sought after in professional and personal relationships. Bravo to you!! The tough part of that equation is being, and allowing some of that good energy you have created to come back to you. Is your accepting muscle as developed as your giving muscle? Do you find the time to stop and feel that great feeling of gratitude for all the awesome gifts in your life?

Let me start this one.

I'm so grateful for this website created by Kurt Ahrens and the other wonderful people you'll find listed under CREDITS that made this site possible. I'm also crazy grateful for YOU for making this site meaningful to me! Thank you so much for taking the time and interest to share your unique perspective and your essence with this online community!

Have an All Things Possible day!

ATP!
Chris

19 Comments:

  • At 3:55 PM, June 19, 2006 , Blogger Tim said...

    Chris
    Like you, I am a serious do-er sometimes to the point of never stopping to smell the roses. Maybe it is being a Cancer on the cusp of Gemini that does it to us. The accepting muscle is totally out of balance with the giving muscle. This I suppose is a problem but certainly not one I am going to lose sleep over. I enjoy being a do-er. It makes me happy and I am a firm believer that there is only one person responsible for making you happy in life and that is yourself. I believe that we make much of our own happiness and if we rely on others to do that for us, we will be sadly disappointed.

    It would be easy for me to say that I am grateful to all those tangible things like my house with it's big trees (and weeds), my job of 21 years (ouch), family (they're cool) and friends (awesome) which are all high on the list but I think it is life's experiences, both good and bad, that I will toast first. It is life's experiences, which include the above mentioned things, that have shaped me into the person that I am, an individual who, at this point in his life, is very content.

    Tim

     
  • At 4:24 PM, June 19, 2006 , Anonymous Alex said...

    Hi Chris and Everyone!

    I'm Alex from Turin in Italy and i'm very glad to know you and all wonderful people of this great website.
    I always find time to stop and fell great feeling of gratitude for the awesome gifts in my life and i have to say that the life is a big gift! So i'm grateful for everything and then also for the following things: i'm crazy grateful for YOU, dear Chris, for being not only a great actor-star of stage and screen, producer, writer, massage therapist, singer, musician and a beautiful man with a great physique, smile, eyes but particularly and more important, because you're a nice, wonderful and fabulous godlike-human being. You constantly bring love, goodness, joy, fun, happiness, support, awereness, hope, confidence in our life and everywhere you can and, unfortunately, that's rare in our society! Thanks so much for sharing your life and experiences with all of us!
    I'm grateful for Kurt Ahrens and the other people that made your awesome website; i love this forum, videos, pictures, articles, fan contributions page and the whole site is great! I'm grateful for all the good people of this forum-online community because they're really wonderful!

    All things are really possible thanks to people like you!

    Thanks again for everything Chris, take care and much love to you and everyone!

    Alex

     
  • At 12:42 PM, June 20, 2006 , Blogger Christopher Showerman said...

    Hey Tim! Well put! You have a wonderful way of accepting and appreciating and accepting all the various elements of your life. BTW, Happy Birthday!

    Alex, Wow - thank-you, what a lovely tribute. Welcome (all the way from Turin!) to the forum. You have great passion - and I'm greateful for that!

    All Things Possible!
    Chris

     
  • At 8:09 PM, June 20, 2006 , Anonymous DaveW said...

    Sadly, it sometimes take tragic and/or near tragic events to make us realize what is really important - and the important things are never "things."

    I don't want to burden readers of this forum with my woes, but suffice it to say that it's been a difficult couple of weeks for me, my family and friends. It's during these times that we all need to remember the positive side of life. It's what gets us through the toughest times.

    Thanks again Chris for providing this forum that helps us to keep focused on the positive!

    Dave

     
  • At 5:57 PM, June 21, 2006 , Blogger Tom said...

    Hi everyone great comments so far i will keep checking for further comments.
    Wow do I ever have a hard time with this one. I am always doing for others it seems I am always available to help everyone but me. It sometimes gets so overwhelming that I get angry with my self for always doing but seldom recieving in return. It seems when its my turn for a little help everyone is too busy. I have a hard time with this cause I expect everyone to be like me. well i have learned over the years that its wrong to expect others to be like me. But that still creeps into my thinking from time to time. This really sounds like I'm complaining about helping others I'm sorry for that. I just have a hard time saying no. That two letter complete sentence. Because of this I have a hard time accepting the good things in my life. It has taken me a while to realize that I am resposible for making me happy not others. I guess I am a slow learner. I get pride and enjoyment from accomplishing a task for someone I guess I am sefish for expecting some of that help in return. So now I expect nothing and I am never diaspointed in theory. Hahah well I am a work in progress at least I realize it as a short comming and vow to work on it more and not beat myself up about it.
    thanks again Chris for your wonderful topics and the folks involved in this forum. I enjoy reading and learning from all of you who take the time to post I hope all are having a good summer so far and if not may it get better for you. Love to all of you . sincerely Tom

     
  • At 5:43 AM, June 22, 2006 , Blogger Christopher Showerman said...

    Hey Dave, whatever is weighing you down, we're all here with you buddie. This too shall pass. Sorry that you are going through a rough time.

    Hey Tom! How insightful to see you expected everyone to be like you!! Definitely the source of a lot of pain and a few bestsellers. Discovering your personality style and divining the personality styles of those around you helps to know what "language" you are talking in. A couple of good books: Love Languages, Men are from Mars, the Meyers-Briggs personality test and Ennegram Movie & Video guide. Good Luck!

    All Things Possible!!
    Chris

     
  • At 9:34 AM, June 23, 2006 , Anonymous Patrick said...

    Chris, it's been a while, but I am glad to be back!

    I had to ask myself 17 years ago whether or not I wanted to stay on this earth because I had followed a path that was not physically or mentally healthy. I was very lucky to have good friends that helped me back onto the right path...a path I have been on ever since.

    Every day I make sure I am aware of everything around me--people, places and things. I see even the smallest details and love them--birds on billboards, the briefcase a man carries in a crowd of people, the formation of clouds through the window, cold air, the veins in leaves on plants in the garden, etc. I have a heightened awareness that I would not trade for anything. It is my sense of being part of the universe. I do my best to allow the energy of all things to come back to me, which gives me a great sense of peace and fulfillment.

    I especially love receiving this energy from people--and I give you a lot of credit for generating a HUGE amount of positive energy. It is evident in the way you speak, the way you write, the way you take care of your physical and mental self. It is this energy that feeds other beings in the universe--an effect you may not even realize. As others respond to your thoughts, I can feel them energizing themselves, and some even healing themselves. Thank you and all the others for sharing this energy.

    Have a great weekend--be aware! And Happy Birthday, Chris. May you be with us for many years to come.

    Patrick Farley, Pittsburgh

     
  • At 9:34 AM, June 23, 2006 , Anonymous Patrick said...

    Chris, it's been a while, but I am glad to be back!

    I had to ask myself 17 years ago whether or not I wanted to stay on this earth because I had followed a path that was not physically or mentally healthy. I was very lucky to have good friends that helped me back onto the right path...a path I have been on ever since.

    Every day I make sure I am aware of everything around me--people, places and things. I see even the smallest details and love them--birds on billboards, the briefcase a man carries in a crowd of people, the formation of clouds through the window, cold air, the veins in leaves on plants in the garden, etc. I have a heightened awareness that I would not trade for anything. It is my sense of being part of the universe. I do my best to allow the energy of all things to come back to me, which gives me a great sense of peace and fulfillment.

    I especially love receiving this energy from people--and I give you a lot of credit for generating a HUGE amount of positive energy. It is evident in the way you speak, the way you write, the way you take care of your physical and mental self. It is this energy that feeds other beings in the universe--an effect you may not even realize. As others respond to your thoughts, I can feel them energizing themselves, and some even healing themselves. Thank you and all the others for sharing this energy.

    Have a great weekend--be aware! And Happy Birthday, Chris. May you be with us for many years to come.

    Patrick Farley, Pittsburgh

     
  • At 9:57 PM, June 23, 2006 , Anonymous Sue said...

    Chris, may I add my best wishes to Patrick's for a Happy Birthday! -- Sue and family

     
  • At 3:13 AM, June 24, 2006 , Blogger Lara Ufuk said...

    Happy Birthday Chris!!!!

    Hi everyone, great posts..

    Wellcome Alex.. my brother just left with his family for Italy-Riviera cost for vacantion from Istanbul Turkey..

    Dave, i was thinking that you haven't been around much lately.. sorry to hear about the difficult times.. i second Chris.. we are all here for you.. and this shall will pass too.. i have learned that we humans are a lot more capable and flexible than we think we are..

    The topic, reminded me the article i have read called "the chemistry of the relationships".. it is basically saying that each relationship of any kind creates a new energy of its own which is totally different than those people's individual energies.. additionally i also believe that a lot of interaction is going on between our souls regardless of the in person interaction like we have here actually.. paying attention to these thougths i have been learning a lot about myself and my relationships..it seems like if letting in and giving is in balance, the energy of the relationships seems to grow stronger..

    Being aware of the energy of other people's relationship is pretty interesting.. i have seen some couples that being around them when they are together is so good.. but it isn't the same when they are alone.. Or the other way around..

    Have a great weekend all in this nice summer day.. even though it is hot i just love summer.. after cold winter days with heavy clothes hanging around with my shorts just feels great..

     
  • At 6:04 AM, June 24, 2006 , Anonymous Alex said...

    Happy Birthday dear Chris!!! and thanks for your hearty welcome! What a great, lovable man and buddy you're! You naturally noticed and felt that i've a great passion. Yeah, i've a great passion for good, true, honest, sensitive, friendly, lovable people like you and the folks involved in this great forum! Being Aware is wonderful: like Patrick said if we are aware, we feel and love even the smallest details of everything around us, every moment, every synchronicity so we feel that people, animals, plants, things have a soul and are full of energy and life!

    Dave i'm sorry that you have tough times and like Chris said, we are all with you!

    Tom i love how you took care of the elderly members of your family! I do the same; i took care of my grandmother until she passed, then of my mother who is feeling better now and i taking care of my last grandmother who is very feeble now and she's about the end of her life! This life! I know what you mean when you need a little help and everyone are too busy; as a matter of fact unfortunately a lot of people are too busy to increase their own ego! You're right when you said we are responsible for making us happy and i agree with Chris: to expect everyone to be like us is the source of a lot of pain. But we must remember that we never are alone because if we want see and feel it, the Universe help us in so many ways! The better example is this forum in which we are in touch with Chris and each other; this is another awesome gift! This world need more true awereness, true love, true goodness, true support, true honesty and less ego!

    Thanks Lara for your kind welcome and for telling us about that interesting article too! I hope your brother and his family have a great and relaxing vacation here in Italy!

    Again Happy Birthday Chris! I wish you all the best and hope you have great times with your loved ones!

    Have a great week-end and much love to you and all!

    Alex
    Turin,Italy

     
  • At 9:31 PM, June 24, 2006 , Anonymous DaveW said...

    Thanks everyone for your kind comments - what I and my family and friends have been dealing with are a couple of unexpected deaths about a week apart.

    But as we all have too often experienced, death is a part of life too. But as it says in Ecclesiastes 3:4, there is a "...time to mourn and a time to laugh, a time to weep and a time to dance..."

    I'm not quite ready to dance again (if it can be said I ever could) but I've been laughing more and am ready to move on with life. Focusing on the positive instead of the loss as Chris and everyone else hear advocates sure has been helpful.

    Alex and Tom, keep caring for others - those moments will prove to be the most meaningful in the long run!

    Patrick - I'm glad you have found the right path for you!

    Lara - I liked your insights on relationships. I bet that if we all could just understand how each other thinks instead of complaining that we aren't understood we could all get along much better (did that sentence make sense?).

    BTW - I'm confused (not unusual I know) is it Chris's birthday or Tim's?

    Dave

     
  • At 6:13 AM, June 25, 2006 , Blogger Lara Ufuk said...

    Dave, my condolences.. glad that it is getting better..

    Your sentence does make a perfect sense and actually something i am working on.. keeping in mind that there is "some" common sense for relationships, love, good friend, good mother, compassion..etc, each individual still have their own understanding, experience, interpretation, expectation of them.. the problem begins when we assume that we do the same things for the same reasons,assuming that the other person thinks the way we are..i have experinced that it only happens when we give time and effort to the relationship for a common ground..so i think you brought up an excellent point.. instead of feeling disappointed that s/he didn't understand us and act according to it, first, as you said, it is very wise trying to understand what s/he thinks.. When i am confused, if i can't ask directly, or choose not to, i try to sense the energy of the relationship and the interaction between the souls, if i can feel light and good, i know that nothing to worry..it does help me a lot..

    As for the birthdays, Chris's is on 24th.. i think(but not sure) Chris celebrated Tim's birthday since he mentioned that he is Cancer too.. Tim, even though we don't know the date, happy birthday to you too...

    Tom, i could put a few thoughts together which might help you to be able to say no transition when you need to.. the following thoughts are proven with experience to help me and they still do..

    when saying yes/giving around starts to consume you, you finally come to the level that you can't give any more which doesn't help to no one..
    a person can't help her/himself can't help anyone else.. to be able to give others, first we must be strong enough to give...
    our body and soul are the very valuable gifts to us given by the universe which we are responsible to treat as well as we can with love and respect but without ego...
    giving is the most valuable virtue which feeds our soul in a great deal and is the hand of the universe to help us through each other but when we feel strong enough to feel the joy of giving which only happens when giving doesn't consume us...
    if you can, giving others is a good way of getting over of our own issues with its positive feedback but it works more with the people who appreciate it and does give you the positive energy with their appreciation..
    trying to give/help someone who doesn't want your help is not a good idea.. and sometimes saying no is the correct way to help not yes..
    if you are strong enough when you give you start to expect less in return yet still feel simple joy of just giving, becoming the hand of the universe..
    giving should be a volunteerly act coming from heart.. if not then just don't do it..

    i can go on.. i put down the ones which might help you to say no until you find your own balance.. i think about it a lot and see it as a very complicated topic.. good luck with it..

     
  • At 7:37 AM, June 25, 2006 , Anonymous Sue said...

    post for Dave W --

    I'm in accord with everyone's thoughts to you here Dave, and while these events seem to happen close together sometimes, it has to be difficult when they're so unexpected, as you've experienced. Last summer about now, we lost both my mom and my husband's mom just two months apart. Their deaths were not totally unexpected, since they were both very elderly and had been battling cancer for awhile. Yet, both were doing quite well within their circumstances. So in that sense, both deaths were unexpected last summer. Both were actually quite sudden, and we didn't have an opportunity to be with either of them when they passed, as we'd have hoped.

    Mostly, we don't want to lose someone dear to us. I find I alternate between acceptance and still feeling angry that that they left when they did. Often, I feel that they're still with us in spirit, and that helps. To imagine that they're not really gone, but still sharing in our lives. That seems to help. I'm not sure that time really takes the pain away. I don't think so. I think looking at life and death in a larger perspective is the only healing thing.

    Right now, we're seeing how my husband's father is handling his wife's death nearly a year later. This has been a lesson in courage for us to witness. They were so close. He speaks of her often, as though she were still with us. So do we. We know she would have wanted us to go on doing the things we would do when she was here. My father-in-law is doing his best to keep a positive outlook and move on, because he knows that's what she would have wanted.

    We're so grateful that he's doing that, and coming to terms with his loss. I hope you will find healing, too. I' m grateful for Chris' forum and the opportunity he shares for expanding our thinking about life. The thoughts, perspectives, and experiences of everyone on this forum have inspired and motivated me over the past year. I find I'm better able to deal with life events, such as this, when I tune in to possibility-thinking. So it's great to have this website and forum to keep me reminded of that! Thanks Chris for keeping your forum going for us. And all our thoughts and prayers are with you Dave. Keep on keeping on! Sue

     
  • At 5:01 PM, June 25, 2006 , Blogger Tim said...

    There is much to learn from life and much to learn from death. For this to be, we must first accept them both and allow them both to happen.

    Dave, I hope that some where down the road you will get out of these two experiences all that you need and were meant to.

    And to clear up the birthday confusion, I am the older one (23rd)

    Tim

     
  • At 6:13 PM, June 25, 2006 , Anonymous DaveW said...

    As always, such deep thoughts, I'm always impressed when I visit this site. Thanks!

    Oh, and here's a belated happy birthday to both Tim and Chris!

    Dave

     
  • At 11:28 AM, June 26, 2006 , Blogger Tom said...

    Happy birthday to chris and tim thanks al of you for your very insightful comments i will definitely read some of books and try to follow the suggestions you all have written. This forum is ao wonderful and ai feel as part of the family.

    thank you alex as a kindred sporot I too hleped with my grandmother and then my mother and now my dad. after that I am done hopefully. I fell it will be my tun to live . it may sound kinda selfish but I really am tired. It wears on your mind and body. Its just that my family dont seem to care about that they always ask how dad is but never me. Oh well Ive given up on that. SO again thanks to all I have a lot of self work today. It gets tough at times but I thank you all for your inputs into this wonderful forum love to all Tom.

     
  • At 1:49 PM, June 26, 2006 , Blogger Christopher Showerman said...

    What amazing caring people you all are! Thank you all so much for the birthday wishes - I had a great birthday!

    Dave, thanks for allowing us all to flock to you. We all have a need to serve and to be nurtured. As times change, so do our needs. However, i think the population here in this forum has a great need to serve each other. A beautiful trait indeed! Anyway, I'm glad you're laughing again!

    Welcome back Patrick! Thank-you Sue, Lara, Alex, Tim (happy B-Day!) Tom, and Dave for all your openness and insight.

     
  • At 3:39 PM, June 27, 2006 , Anonymous Alex said...

    I'm very glad you had a great birthday Chris!

    Happy belated birthday to Tim and my condolences to Dave.

    Thanks Lara and Sue for so wise, great thoughts and advices; they really help us a lot!

    Tom, i know well what you mean. I helped my two grandmothers and my mother and i didn't have support or care by my relatives. When tough times and problems come i noticed that most people disappear! Obviuosly these people are under the bad effects of their own ego: close mind, close heart, fears, egocentrism, egoism, etc. That's very sad but i don't worry about that, because i always feel the support and the presence of the Universe close to me! SO as you rightly said Tom, this forum is wonderful and as you can see, we're a family!

    I want to thanks once again and always the Universe for giving us OUR Fabulous Chris; he is truly an awesome, special Gift in our life!

    Take care all!
    Alex
    Turin,Italy

     

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