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Friday, June 02, 2006

Mid Year Resolution

HEY!

Happy June everyone and thanks to all who pitched in a response to the last forum topic!

Do you remember waaaaaay back to January first - when you made a promise to yourself that you would achieve or experience something special this year? Maybe you didn't make an actual "New Year's Resolution", but you must have had hopes and expectations for the new year -right? Well as we go into the sixth month it's high time we take a look at those hopes and dreams.

First off, is the thing you wanted at the beginning of the year still important? If so, have you done anything about it lately? If not, how about today?? Our hopes and dreams are only valuable if they motivate ACTION NOW. Otherwise, they remain phantoms of our imaginary future that remind us of how unfulfilled we are today - in which case we'd be better off without any dreams at all. (Oooooh, harsh - I know!) Our lives tend to fill up with obligations and duties - which is a necessary part of life. But what can you do NOW for YOURSELF to further your own FULFILLMENT!?

All Things Possible!!
Chris

13 Comments:

  • At 10:44 PM, June 02, 2006 , Anonymous Ute said...

    Hi Chris,

    Happy June indeed - today's the first day of my vacation and the weather is said to be *finally* improving from the sub-arctic temperatures we've been having lately. :)

    I am happy to say, yes, it's still important and I have made progress. My resolution was to be a little more selfish and although there have been little set-backs (it's hard to break your behaviour sometimes) I have made good progress and had some very pleasing moments because of having done the right thing for myself. Which is good motivation to stay on the right track.

    I also remembered something I have been wanting to do for a long time, but forgot, which is to buy music from Mozart. When they showed "Amadeus" again recently I was reminded of that and found the complete works (170 cds!) at amazon for an unexpensive 90 Euros. I have had them for about three weeks now and have progressed to cd no. 9 and found that this music or this kind of music has been with me in soundtracks of films all my life, which is something I hadn't expected.

    Other things are taking a bit longer than I had hoped, like my home studies, as I had less time than I expected, due to changes at work causing me to work longer hours. But the finish line is coming up and I will complete the course this month. Yeah!

    I already have a new project coming up which is to brush up my Dutch. I have been wanting to do this since I met Jaschenka, but I figured it would be a good idea to finish the other course first. So, I am getting there, step by step.

    Hope everyone else is making progress too.

    All the best and have a great weekend.

    Ute

     
  • At 6:10 AM, June 04, 2006 , Blogger Lara Ufuk said...

    Hi Chris..

    This year has been developing very different and interesting for me in a good way.. after facing some big disappointments the last couple of years, this year, all i wanted was just recover totally, don't have any expectations any more and focus on what i have and to the present time to make the best of it.. i remember saying to my self No New Year's Resolution this year.. practically all i wanted was a job which is different than in my previous area.. may be it is fair to say that trying not to have expectations was my new year's resolution.. and yes, it is still very important to me actually as one of the crucial codes to live in peace..

    On the other hand, it doesn't seem that it is possible not to have wishes, hopes, dreams all together.. and i do.. but i just try not to get attached to them so much and try to see other alternative ways the universe is offering me not to miss other things and not to let them to be the phantoms of my imaginary future that would remind me how unfulfilled i am today as you said very well.. and i don't think i always know to ask the best for myself.. i remember a saying that " be careful what you wish for, you may get it".. when i wanted something and didn't get it, i often saw that it wasn't really good for me.. so i left myself into the hands of the universe and asking for the best for me.. and then trying to be aware of the signs shown to get it.

    The latest example is about my work situation.. as i mentioned before, i have been trying really hard for a few years to find a job in a different area then my own background and which is not sales (i have a computer engineer degree and did technology sales for years) but nothing seemed exciting enough to do even though i looked for it... meanwhile i turned down the sales jobs in my area until last month.. then out of blue i run into a old friend of mine whom i haven't seen for more than a 10 years.. he said that he just built a new company connected to American company who will sell software outsourcing and they need someone like me.. first i thought to turn it down as others but then i decided to discuss because i though it would be nice to work with my friend and company has overseas connection ( i have always loved travelling)..and my bills needs to be paid somehow.. the more we discussed to more things has changed in a way i would enjoy.. it isn't just sales anymore which has more responsibilities in new areas.. and it involves Europe as well as the US.. we are still discusing the terms and didn't agree yet but i am truely excited about it..the ironic thing is that this was the kind of job i have always wanted when i was working in my area..if we agree i will postpone my new area job search for a while..if not will look for the news signs.. it feels good to trust to the universe and go with the flow ..

    Starting running after years ( Big thanks to you ) is a great fulfillment of this year. After this topic, I like to start one of my two more choices which i have been wanting to start : drawing/painting or working on the script. I can't do both if i start a new job while studying Sufism and spend a lot of time with my nephew. If i can really start one of these and continue that would be a great fulfillment for me. That would be good enough until next year

    Will you tell us what do you do for yourself for fulfillment

    Ute, happy holidays...

     
  • At 12:42 PM, June 04, 2006 , Blogger Tom said...

    Wow two great comments from Ute and Lara .Thanks Chris for checking in on us its nice to know that someone is feeding us good things and not garbage we see in the papers everyday. Its tough for me to do for myself I have been a people pleaser all my life. But you know you just get bloody tired of it after a while. haha
    Its hard for me to say no, but no is a complete sentence. I am learning . It is amasing though that when you say no to others they suddenly leave you alone. all alone no more invites over for a picnics well I wont go on but it has been my expirience anyway. As for me I have started to walk I know walk 2.2 miles a day at about 4 miles an hour so i get a good cardio workout plus its not all level a lot of hills. I would walk farther but I take care of my elderly Dad so I dont like to Leave him alone too long.
    So that is one of my goals to get in better physical shape and avoid the pity party traps I set for my self. I am also trying to get my friend an imagration visa to the USA from of all Places Mexico. I know have a senator helping me and things are finally moving at a snails pace. well thats better than no pace.
    The last thing I have done was to resign my self to the fact that I am alone in taking care of my Dad and that is it. I know longer grouss about my siblings helping or even giving a hoot. I have made new friends, that have become my family and i expect nothing from them and therefore no longer disapointed. sorry if this sounds to personal but it is about our goals right well these are mine at the moment. I add and delete them as necessary from my routine.

    I hope to one day be able to do what I want, when I want to do it, and I will but it may be a ways off. it took me a lot of years to get to here. so it won't be over night I think that is the way to look at it or you will become discouraged as I have many times before and give up . I try to quit playing the old tapes in my mind that keep me from achieving my goals.
    Well, I am a work in progress if I fail I start over again after all its only life there are no right or wrong ways just some are better than others. Wow hope this makes some sense. hehe
    Happy june to all and you Chris who remains an inspiration to me personally. Thank you so much for being you. Your goal is met in me. Love to all Tom

     
  • At 3:58 PM, June 05, 2006 , Blogger Tim said...

    Chris
    I am new to your blog family having found the site via web search on "motivation and focus". The search lead me to the May 4 post about the book "The Inner Game of Tennis". Due to a schedule change, my training partner and I can no longer meet at the gym at the same time. I quickly realized that he was a major source of my drive and intensity. My goal was and still is to regain what I had allowed to become someone elses responsibility. (Great book, Amazon.com for 1 cent).

    As far as other peoples goals: I teach dog training classes, specifically dog agility. Most all of my students compete in agility trials and I am very careful not to let them set their goals beyond what they are capable of doing at the time. I explain that working your way to agility titles and hopefully championships is like rock climbing. The goal is to get to the top but to do so via "this ledge and that one". I tell them not to worry about how well the other people are doing, "they are not you and they don't have your dog". Every competition they enter they should look at the part of the course that they feel will give them the most trouble and concentrate on getting through that.

    Life is pretty much the same way. I don't base my goals on what my friends are doing nor should they by what I am doing. I have my own crosses to bear with out having to carry someone elses.

    Tom, failure is success if you learn from it. Life is one continual learning experience. Success, like stress, is what you make it and what you allow it to be. It is different for everyone.

    And everyone, you all seem so supportive of each other and that is so very cool. I'll check back in every now and then.

    Chris, thanks for the tip on the book. I am now back in the grove and hope to stay there

    T

     
  • At 1:57 PM, June 06, 2006 , Anonymous sue said...

    Hi Chris and everyone...

    I like the idea of a mid-year June check-up (or a "check-in" with yourself on your intentions and aspirations for the year). In January the year seems to hold infinite potential for achieving your dreams, or at least biting off a good chunk of that elusive "chocolate:" -- to put a little Forrest Gumpism in the mix.
    Can it really be that this year is half over? Or that this first decade in the new millennium is too? Thanks, Chris, for being there to needle us a little.
    We all need someone to prick our balloon now and then. and get us back down to focusing on those things that would make a major improvement in our lives. For me, I was sure I'd make a huge dent in my efforts to practice a little more art of feng shui in my life and in my surroundings. Mid-year forecast: I've a long way to go...thanks for reminding me!

    Best of luck to Ute, Lara, Tom and Tim...and the rest of Chris' web family. It's so great to get inspiration from all of you...

     
  • At 5:38 PM, June 06, 2006 , Blogger Christopher Showerman said...

    GREAT COMMENTS!! Thanks y'all!

    Ute, what a great aim to familiarize yourself with Mozart. He has a huge body of work that I have only heard a fraction of - and I studied that stuff for my degree in college!! So bravo to you. Perhaps Jaschenka will come over and teach you Dutch personally?! (hint hint Jaschenka!)

    Lara - WOW!! Congratulations on the new job opportunity. Isn't it amazing what shows itself when you let go of expectations of how it should look! I know we are all hoping the best for you and that it turns into a fulfilling calling!

    Tom, bravo on taking full responsibility for your feelings, life situation, and your exercise program. If you can't increase the time you spend working out, you can always increase the intensity! I'm impressed with all your efforts to get your friend a visa. Keep us posted!!

    Tim, WELCOME!! Thank you so much for letting me know that my website came up under a "motivation & focus" search. That made my day!! I love how you define success as a self defined entity independent of the success happening around you. If our wins and losses were inversely contingent on the success of others, we'd be pretty miserable. I know, I use to have a bit of that competitive spirit myself. Let me know what you think of "The Inner Game of Tennis".

    And finally Thank you Sue for the Forrest Gumption boost!! If we stay focused and driven YET don't get too attached to the outcome, amazing results can unfold that we could have never imagined. Being detached from the outcome doesn't mean you have to let go of your drive and perseverance. Choosing a goal or direction and going all out for it may not get you to your original goal, but the universe can find you easier for what you are really meant for if you are out doing SOMETHING. So, as Tim says, go out and fail big at something and chances are you'll find more success that what you were aiming for in the first place!!

    All Things Possible!
    Chris

     
  • At 3:25 AM, June 08, 2006 , Anonymous Jaschenka said...

    Hey all!
    Great motivations, goals and perspectives out here -as always!

    Chris, let me assure you Ute will absolutely not need me as a Dutch teacher- she understands quite a bit of it already and her dictionary expands with each visit to me with various doggy commands- very useful! (But in case you do need me Ute; you know where to find me! Oh, and Mozart!? Brings back memories from my ballet classes!)

    Tim, welcome aboard. Good to hear there's an agility trainer out there who actually believes agilty is not all about winning but also meant to have some fun. In case you're in the neighbourhood: my dogs are going through summer recess from doggyschool and are getting pretty bored!

    Looking back at the past months I must say circumstances kinda made me go with the flow but I don't neccessarily see that as a bad thing. It sort of gave me the freedom to spend my time on various (so far neglected) projects and although I'm making good progress I can't say I'm actually getting anything done. However, I assume that in time I'll find myself finishing up lots of things at once..which will be good I suppose.
    Other than that the main event of this year for me is my trip to China in august to visit my husband. Quite an adventure but I'm really excited about that. So that will pretty much fill my agenda.

    Good luck with all that you are up to, folks! Be Inspired!

     
  • At 7:09 PM, June 08, 2006 , Anonymous DaveW said...

    Greetings!
    It's great to read through this blog and learn of everyone's progress this year - thanks Chris for the reminder to check on the goals we set back in January. I agree with Sue that the year, decade, century, and millennium is just flying by!

    I've made some progress in the past few months myself - things have never been better for me professionally, I've accomplished quite a lot theatrically (both acting and directing), have been hitting the gym regularly, and have even made progress on finally starting and finishing the script for a play that I have been working with on and off - mostly off - for the past five years. Add some trips and pleasant visits with both old and new friends and it all adds up to life being pretty good for me right now. Of course, I've been working on not seeing the negative side of everything and keeping a positive attitude - thanks to Chris and all of you here.

    Take care everyone - I hope the next six months are as interesting as the last seem to have been!

    Dave

     
  • At 8:08 PM, June 08, 2006 , Anonymous Sue said...

    Thanks, Dave, for the comment. I've been more aware of the passage of time lately, probably because I'd written a column for our little home town paper about the millennium a couple of years into it...and I fully intended to do another one half way through. Well, now it's past halfway and I'm thinking maybe I'd be better off not thinking about time at all. You can really get into a philosophical, metaphysical discussion about that! Well, at least I'm sure the person leading this blog would have "infinite" things to say about time and our perception of it. I have made some progress, but the way I see it, until I get past this work that needs done, I'll keep holding off what I really want. I am, however, making great progress on my walking program.

    It's wonderful hearing how everyone who tunes in here is working on different areas of their lives. And I send best wishes of all things possible to all...Sue

     
  • At 12:15 PM, June 11, 2006 , Blogger Lara Ufuk said...

    Chris and everyone, Thank you very much for your supportive and kind wishes.. we have agreed with my friend to work together.. thankful for it..

    Happy to hear all sort of progresses from you all for the first half of the year.. and i do wish the very best for your fulfillments for the rest of the year.. or some may be later... it seems like some of the dreams take very long time and they show up when we even forget about them..

    ...

     
  • At 6:05 PM, June 13, 2006 , Blogger Tim said...

    These are the two fortunes I got out of the fortune cookies from Sunday night's Chinese dinner. They relate totally to the above subject matter and are now being used as bookmarks in "The Inner Game of Tennis"

    #1: Do not fear failure.

    #2: Doing what you love is freedom.
    Loving what you do is happiness.

     
  • At 10:10 PM, June 15, 2006 , Blogger babyphat83 said...

    how do you come up with you topics?

    Peace-babyphat

     
  • At 7:46 PM, June 18, 2006 , Blogger Christopher Showerman said...

    Thanks all for the great comments!! Babyphat - well I just write what I usually need to hear and that's how we get the next topic! We're all in this together!!

    All Things Possible!!
    Chris

     

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